The Contradictory Questions
Ouch! This is always a terrible way to announce anything major. First, to do it in a text message in the first place is a pretty bad idea—for both of the people in this scenario. But to say something that huge when you have no idea what the other person is about to say, too? It’s rarely going to end well.
To be fair, if two people are in such wildly different places about where they think the relationship is going, they probably aren’t that suited to each other. Which relationship are you looking at?