What Realistically Would Cause You To Leave The Marriage?
“Kids; who wants them, how will you raise them, how will you support them (dual income or stay at home)
Deal breakers/the nature of the commitment: people go into marriage with different expectations. What realistically would cause you to leave the marriage? If you are seeking true lifetime commitment that is genuinely felt and pledged on your wedding day, a good question to ask yourselves is, ‘If divorce did not exist would I still be doing this?’
Financials: expectations, direction you plan to go together and how you’ll do it. For example, I am a SAHM. Our financial plan is to always keep our family’s needs under my husband’s income. I plan to eventually go back to work again, but our goal is to always use my income for “whipped cream”- the things we want but don’t need (private education, vacations, etc.). We also set a goal to live debt-free (with the exception of mortgage) and have managed to achieve and maintain that.
Extended Family/Religion: what prominence do each of you expect these things to play in your life? Are there conflicts? How will these things play out with kids and holidays?”